In today’s world, where social media often acts as an individual’s primary source of communication with others, it is not uncommon to see your Facebook friends venting about their ex-spouses, glorifying a new relationship, and displaying frustration about lengthy and expensive divorce proceedings. The problem comes when social media becomes a source of fodder for your ex, whether you are involved in contentious divorce proceedings, have recently separated, or are engaged in a nasty custody battle. All too often, social media posts are impulsive, unflattering, and downright obnoxious, and your ex will not miss a chance to use your posts against you in the courtroom. However, if you follow a few simple rules when it comes to social media and your divorce, you can avoid the dangers of social media evidence in your South Carolina divorce court proceedings.
Avoid Discussing Your Legal Situation or Ongoing Legal Proceedings
To be frank, the opinions of your Facebook friends are not relevant when it comes to divorce and the law. They cannot give you proper legal advice, and they cannot advise you about what to do in your situation. However, if you publish the details of every step of your divorce proceedings on Instagram and Twitter, you are opening yourself up to the opinions of the public at large. Rather, you should focus on following the advice that your South Carolina divorce lawyer is giving you, and not endanger the status of your case. Likewise, social media is no place for airing your frustrations about the divorce judge hearing your case or complaining about how long it takes to schedule a court hearing. Any negative comments that you make inevitably will end up in your ex’s hands, and also will end up in front of the judge. Basically, if you wouldn’t want your attorney, your ex, or your divorce judge to read your latest Facebook post, then you shouldn’t post it in the first place.
Avoid Badmouthing Your Ex-Spouse
As much as you despise your ex right now, you picked him or her out in the first place, and now you have to live with that decision. While you might like to lambast your ex in public and have all your closest friends join in, your ex will simply use your ranting against you in any contested matters, particularly if they involve child custody matters. Your ex is already going to use any negative thing that he or she can remember about you, so do not make it worse by providing your ex with more ammunition to use against you.
Social Media Restrictions and Your Children
Given the overwhelming presence of social media in your family’s life, and especially in your children’s lives, it is not uncommon to find specific provisions in divorce court orders and settlement agreements that address your children’s social media presence. For instance, do you want to prohibit your ex from posting pictures of your kids on a dating website? Do you and your spouse agree about whether your teenager should have a Snapchat account? If these social media concerns are a real issue between you and your children, you should consider asking for orders that address those concerns.
Consult Your South Carolina Divorce Attorney for Advice
As discussed above, it is essential that you be mindful of social media and how it can impact your divorce. At the Elliott Frazier Law Firm, LLC, we are aware of the presence of social media in our clients’ lives and in the courtroom. Before you use social media to your own detriment, consult your South Carolina family law attorney for advice.
Angela Elliot Frazier is a Family Law Attorney who practices in Greenville, SC. She graduated from the University of South Carolina School of Law, and has been practicing law for 14 years now. Angela Frazier believes in helping you through one of the most stressful times of your life. Learn more about her experience by clicking here.